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CAN YOU AS A WIFE SETTLE FOR A JOINT ACCOUNT WITH YOUR HUSBAND?

Married Muslim women bared their minds with AL-FAHM’s LATEEFAH FARAWE on running a joint account with their husband.

Hajia Fauziyyah Yussuf (Umm Uthman)
Surulere Area Council
I will open a joint account with my husband as there is nothing wrong with it. Our relationship is of sincere love, I love my husband and he loves me too. Money is actually a material thing and it shouldn’t be allowed to hinder the love between us. I think it is okay to settle for such.

Hajija Shakirah Idowu
Iganmu Area Council
I’ll ask him why we need to settle for a joint account if he insists that we have a joint account. But the truth is, there is no reason he could give that would make me agree. As a woman I need to be independent in my doings, if he needs my support I’ll definitely render it, but in terms of a joint account it’s a no! no!! from me.

Hajia Nimot Oladehinde
Ojo Area Council
I’ll agree to settle for a joint account with my husband because of the trust I have in him and I am very sure he won’t do anything funny with the money without my consent.

Hajia Rashidah Jumah (Umm A’rahman)
Surulere Area Council
No! The reason is because whatever you’ll want to do in life, the future counts most. Couples that have done such will advice others not to merge accounts for whatever reasons. If the husband dies, how do you explain to his family members bearing in mind that there is no ideal way of sharing a ‘will’ any longer? What if the husband has another wife and dies leaving behind a joint account? It’ll be so difficult to sort out such account. The sincere truth is having a joint account is not the best way to show love. To round it off I’ll give room for husbands to probe their wives on every spending they intend to make.  

Hajia Kafayah Ojuteke
Surulere Area Council
It’s something good, unionism means life partnership i.e. a husband and his wife should do things together. Personally, I can do it because of Allah and because I know that ideally we are one and should be able to do a lot of things together. But the issue is the man is eligible to marry other wives, if he does what will happen to such account? In my opinion, since the basis of such a union is because of Allah then it’s either I encounter little or no problem when issues like the one mentioned above occurs.,

Hajia Zubaydah Akosile (Umm Aisha)
Almuminaat (Ilorin)
I won’t venture for such and I’ll never do such because problems are prone to arise in future. I know of a couple who have done it in the past of which it didn’t favour the wife. Besides that, some men withdraw anyhow and still believe they are in control over it.

Hajia Basheerah Hassan (Umm Aminah)
Surulere Area Council
Actually, I’ll say yes and no. I’ll say yes because it is based on trust as regards the ideal relationship between couples that is natural. And I’ll say no basically on the aspect of Islam. The Qur’an states that whenever you want to deal with contract with anyone it must be clarified. A lot of issues might come up when you do that. Take for instance “death” of either the husband or the wife, who will explain the situation of things to the family of the deceased. Talking about the “mathna palava”, how the husband will explain to the new wife that she can’t spend from the account that reads his name, this could make a lot of issues come up. To avoid ambiguities the best is for us to settle for things that are self explanatory. As we know that love is not something you express but a thing between the couples. In other words, we need to make our love for Islam make us operate the Islamic style.



WHAT WILL YOU DO IF YOU HAVE PICKED A WEDDING DATE AND YOUR “HUSBAND-TO-BE” SAYS HE IS NO MORE INTERESTED?

AL-FAHM’s AISHA HARUN also took some single sisters on their reactions supposing their husband-to-be said he’s no more interested in an-Nikkah after picking a date.

MADINA MIFTAH
SURULERE AREA COUNCIL
For meI take Allah’s rahmah because before now that I had friends that are into relationships, my prayer is that their relationships should end into marriage if they’ve got the right man but if not it shouldn’t. So, I’ll see it as an answer to my prayer and get along again.
FATIMAH AFOLABI
IGANMU AREA COUNCIL
Firstly, I’ll be shocked. He will need to explain why things must end there and thereafter I’ll leave him alone because for him to raise such a motion then it means he is not the right man for me.
MORYAM AJADI
SURULERE AREA COUNCIL
Hmmn… what will I do? I’ll accept my fate. The reality is that it doesn’t worth killing oneself over it, it’s only a signal from Allah that we are not meant for each other, I’ll accept my fate and move on with life.
NUSAYBAH DH

2 comments:

  1. i cant settle for a joint account wit my husby.financially, it isnt adviceable to do that.but u can av savings,probably daily savings.it can be mnthly,yearly or there abt base on ur agreement.so all wifey out there, be wise.

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  2. I will implore the editorial board to always get Scholarly conclusion for some of the comments made based on personal views.
    Secondly, Islam did not stipulate that husbands and wives should have joint accounts because they are going to account for their wealth independent of each other

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